March 1-2 at New Hope Fellowship in Lawrence KS.

What role does a man’s early attachment experiences and models play in his sexual compulsions? What roles do they play in his struggles to connect with his wife even when sober? What role does a wife’s early attachment experiences and models play in the trauma she experiences in betrayal? What role does it play in her recovery process?

Why do some men in active sexual addiction avoid connection and even sex with their wives while others overwhelm them with constant demands? Why do some men in recovery turn their focus onto their wife, while others seem to shut down all sexual desire?

Why do some wives, in the midst of their betrayal trauma, respond by wanting, even needing sexual connection from their betraying partner while others shut down their sexual desire?

What harms are done to a betrayed wife when she experiences her husband seeking sex as the confirmation that “we are OK?” What harms are done to a betrayed wife when she experiences her husband avoiding physical and emotional connection even after he establishes sexual sobriety and the wife is open and interested in sexual reconnection?

Join us March, 1-2 at New Hope Fellowship in Lawrence Kansas as we explore these and other questions while taking a deep dive into the three most universally accepted models of insecure attachment to gain better understanding and to learn new skills for developing secure attachment with God and others.

Schedule:

Saturday, March 1

  • 9:00-10:30 Intro to attachment theory, attachment pain and three styles of insecure attachment.
  • 10:30-10:45 Break
  • 10:45-12:15 Dismissive/Avoidant Attachment
  • 12:15-1:00 Lunch
  • 1:00-2:30 Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment
  • 2:30-2:45 Break
  • 2:45-4:15 The Dismissive/Anxious Dance In Active Addiction
  • 4:15-4:30 Break
  • 4:30-6:00 The Dismissive/Anxious Dance in Early Recovery

Sunday March 2

  • 10:15-12:00 Optional worship at New Hope Fellowship: Darrell’s sermon will be on “Created for Connection” where he will show how secure Attachment with God and with others is God’s design for each of us.
  • 1:30-3:00 The Dance in intermediate and long term recovery
  • 3:00-3:15 Break
  • 3:15-4:30 Building secure attachment with God.
  • 4:30-4:45 Break
  • 4:45-6:00 Building secure attachment with each other in the aftermath of betrayal and recovery

Registration:

  • Limited to 60 participants
  • Suggested donation $75 per individual or $125 per couple
  • Reserve your spot with a $25 deposit