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What role does a man’s early attachment experiences and models play in his sexual compulsions? What roles do they play in his struggles to connect with his wife even when sober? What role does a wife’s early attachment experiences and models play in the trauma she experiences in betrayal? What role does it play in her recovery process?

Why do some men in active sexual addiction avoid connection and even sex with their wives while others overwhelm them with constant demands? Why do some men in recovery turn their focus onto their wife, while others seem to shut down all sexual desire?

Why do some wives, in the midst of their betrayal trauma, respond by wanting, even needing sexual connection from their betraying partner while others shut down their sexual desire?

What harms are done to a betrayed wife when she experiences her husband seeking sex as the confirmation that “we are OK?” What harms are done to a betrayed wife when she experiences her husband avoiding physical and emotional connection even after he establishes sexual sobriety and the wife is open and interested in sexual reconnection?

Darrell Brazell presented this seminar at New Hope Fellowship in Lawrence Kansas in March of 2025 and explored these and other questions while taking a deep dive into the three most universally accepted models of insecure attachment to gain better understanding and to learn new skills for developing secure attachment with God and others.

Schedule:

Saturday, March 1

  • 9:00-10:30 Intro to Attachment and Three Styles of Insecure Attachment.
  • 10:30-10:45 Break
  • 10:45-12:15 Attachment Pain
  • 12:15-1:30 Lunch
  • 1:30-3:00 Healing Attachment Wounds
  • 3:00-3:30 Break
  • 3:30-5:30 Secure Attachment Skills

Sunday March 2

  • 10:15-12:00 Optional worship at New Hope Fellowship: Darrell’s sermon will be on “Created for Connection” where he will show how secure Attachment with God and with others is God’s design for each of us.
  • 1:30-3:00 Dismissive Attachment in Active Addiction, In Recovery and in Betrayal Trauma
  • 3:00-3:15 Break
  • 3:15-4:30 Anxious (Ambivilent or Distracted) Attachment in Active Addiction, In Recovery and in Betrayal Trauma
  • 4:30-4:45 Break
  • 4:45-6:00 Reversing Role Reversals

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