We will spend four intense days learning from Dr. Minwalla’s model, from Darrell’s 24 years of experience & training as well as from one another. We will work both cognitively and experientially to understand both our realities and our wives’ realities and how to do our part to bring healing to ourselves, our wives and our relationships.

The setting will be intentionally sparse but naturally beautiful. We will stay in primitive cabins that provide heat and dry spaces, but few luxuries. This environment will help you connect to yourself and your Creator while taking a deep look at the impact and harms of your deceptive sexual and other integrity abuse behaviors (IABs). Darrell gives an introduction to IAB’s in his Protector or Predator message.

We only have space for nine participants so please contact Darrell ASAP if you want to attend. Participants will need to either already be working with Darrell or go through an intake interview with him to attend. Please pay for your food & lodging ($275) to hold your spot. (See below for what meals are covered) Suggested donation (above food and lodging) for the intensive is $1500 which includes 12 group sessions, (29 hours).

Here is a teaching time from Darrell’s 22 Room Seminar that will give you a taste of some of the content. (This was during a lecture seminar, however, content will be presented differently in this small group context.)

Friday June 7

  • 3-6:30PM Arrive & Check In to your cabin. Eat before you arrive. (Freemons, one of Darrell’s favorite dives is between mile markers 39 & 40 on your way in, but they close at 5:59.)
  • 7-9 PM Session 1: Our stories

Saturday June 8

  • 7:00 Breakfast
  • 8:30-11:30 Session 2: Understanding The Harms of the Covert Phase
  • 11:30-2:00 lunch on your own.*
  • 2-5 Session 3: Understanding the Harms of the Covert Phase part 2
  • 6:00 Dinner
  • 7-9 Session 4: Our stories Part 2

Sunday June 9

  • 7:00 Breakfast
  • 8:00 Optional worship/communion together
  • 9-11:30 Session 5: Understanding the Harms of the Exposure Phase
  • 11:30-2 lunch on your own.*
  • 2-5 Session 6: Understanding the Harms of the Exposure Phase Part 2
  • 6:00 Dinner
  • 7-9 Session 7: Our Stories Part 3

Monday June 10

  • 7:00 Breakfast
  • 8:30-11:30 Session 8: Understanding the Harms of the Symptom Progression Phase
  • 11:30-2 lunch on your own.*
  • 2-5 Session 9: Immanuel Prayer Structure (See description of this session on our Immanuel Prayer Structure Intensive page.)
  • 6:00 Dinner
  • 7-9 Session 10: Treasure Hunting


  • 7:00 Breakfast
  • 8:00-10:00 Session 11: Understanding the Harms of the Symptom Progression Phase Part 2
  • 10:30-12:00 Session 12: Wrap Up

Wednesday & Thursday

  • Cabins are rented through Thursday morning. We highly recommend taking a day to soak it all in, enjoy a hike, go fishing, explore the mining history of Creede or just sleep in and let your body and mind recover from the hard work you will have done.
  • Must be completely out of your cabin by 9AM Thursday the 13th


  • New Hope will bring the supplies for breakfasts on Saturday through Tuesday and dinners Saturday through Monday.
  • Lunches: Each day we will have an extended break so you will have time to drive to Freemons (One of Darrell’s favorite dives, awesome burgers, fries, etc. about 15 minutes away) or into Creede or Lake City which are both about 30 minutes away. You are also welcome to bring your own food and starting on Sunday, scrounge through the previous day’s leftovers.

What to bring

  • Warm sleeping bag. Cabins have beds (2 full size beds per cabin) but only come with a mattress cover. Mornings could be in the 20’s and while the cabins have wood stoves, unless you are up multiple times in the night restocking it, your cabin will be cold by morning.
  • Casual “mountain clothes.” Some of our work will be done outside and June daytime temps can range from the mid 30s to the upper 70s. Bring clothes that allow you to dress in layers.
  • Journal or notebook.
  • Drinking water. There is untested well water for showers, cleaning up, etc. In the past many guests have drank the water without any known issues. However, it has not been tested in several years so they are not calling it drinkable. Bring more water than you think you will need. I recommend a gallon per person per day.
  • Drinks, snacks, lunch food. As stated above, New Hope will provide some but not all your meals. It will not provide drinks and snacks so hit Walmart in Alamosa on your way in. We will have cooler space available.

Thanks! This event and the ministry of New Hope is available to everyone because of the generous donations of many individuals and families. We are constantly blown away by God’s provision for New Hope through the generosity of many. Therefore, please do not let the “suggested donation” amount prevent you from registering if you feel called to attend. We do ask everyone to at least cover their “Food and Lodging Expense” of $275.