(Darrell is looking into an option in May. Shoot him an email if you are interested)
We will spend four and a half intense days learning from Dr. Minwalla’s model, from Darrell’s 24 years of experience & training as well as from one another. We will work both cognitively and experientially to understand both our realities and our wives’ realities and how to do our part to bring healing to ourselves, our wives and our relationships.
The setting will be intentionally sparse but naturally beautiful. We will stay in primitive cabins that provide heat and dry spaces, but few luxuries. This environment will help you connect to yourself and your Creator while taking a deep look at the impact and harms of your deceptive sexual and other integrity abuse behaviors (IABs). Darrell gives an introduction to IAB’s in his Protector or Predator message.
We only have space for ten participants so please contact Darrell ASAP if you want to attend. Participants will need to either already be working with Darrell or go through an intake interview with him to attend. Please pay for your food & lodging ($475) to hold your spot. (See below for what meals are covered) Suggested donation (above food and lodging) for the intensive is $1500 which includes 13 group sessions, (31 hours).
Here is a teaching time from Darrell’s 22 Room Seminar that will give you a taste of some of the content. (This was during a lecture seminar, however, content will be presented differently in this small group context.)
Here is a testimony from one of the men who attended the very first Intensive in the “primitive” cabin location.
“Overall, I couldn’t have been more pleased, at so many levels.
I am a man who has struggled with lust my entire life, and got caught with porn by my wife 25 years ago. Since, I have been to countless intensives and seminars desperately trying to be a man of integrity and being right with God. Although I received some benefit from all of them, nothing came even close to what I experienced in Creede at Darrell’s Intensive.
From a practical standpoint, the weekend went like a well oiled machine. The meals were excellent, plenty of snacks and water available. Despite the lack of some of the comforts like electricity and flush toilets those minor inconveniences took a back stage to the importance of what transpired during the teachings.
As for the instruction part of the intensive, I don’t see how it could have gone any better. I loved the way Darrell encouraged the guys to interact and give feedback. This was so important and helpful, and was lacking at most of the other seminars I’ve been to. I never felt like Darrell was hurrying through the material just to get through it. Rather, he carefully covered each topic allowing feedback from each of us. This was so important because a lot of the guys brought valuable insights from their own life experiences. I was amazed at the similarities in our stories.
After 25 years of engaging in this battle, I can now see the absolute importance of what was taught in Creede, and that is, the Minwalla model. It’s not all about the lust issue like I had thought the problem was for all these years. The bigger problem is how poorly I dealt with my wife while battling the addiction. Lying, gaslighting, minimizing, manipulation and blaming were just a few of terrible ways I interacted with my wife and others. The teachings in the 22 Room Intensive reinforced how critical it is to not only deal with the addiction, but also how one needs to relate with your spouse to bring true healing.
Along with the interactive teaching, there were a few more things I loved about the weekend. Darrell used a video about a priest who finally got exposed after 30 years that was amazing. It showed me how foolish I must look when trying to explain away my bad behavior. Another thing I thought of as so valuable was the “Immanuel Prayer Structure” role playing we did, going back in time, assigning different people to play the role of family members from our past. This was so powerful and showed how our troubled past helped shape the people we were to become. I was especially thankful to the individual who volunteered to use his story for being so vulnerable.
Lastly, it was great meeting all the guys from group and spending quality time with them. If anyone is on the fence about whether or not they should attend this intensive, go! Make it happen. Do what you need to to make it happen. Don’t let your addiction ruin your legacy, your marriage or your family. Do it while there’s still time.“
Friday June 7
- 3-5:30PM Arrive & Check In to your cabin.
- 6:00 Dinner (Simple meal of Brats and if Darrell or someone else has had time and the good fortune, possibly some fresh grilled trout)
- 7-9 PM Session 1: Our stories
Saturday June 8
- 8:30 Breakfast
- 9:30-12:00 Session 2 Our Stories Part 2
- 12:00-2:00 lunch on your own.*
- 2:00-5:00 Session 3: Session 2: Understanding The Harms of the Covert Phase Part 1
- 6:00 Dinner
- 7:00-9:00 Session 4: Understanding the Harms of the Covert Phase part 2
Sunday June 9
- 8:30 Breakfast
- 9:30 Optional worship/communion together
- 10:30-12:30 Session 5: Understanding the Harms of the Covert Phase part 3
- 12:30-2:30 lunch on your own.*
- 2:30-5:00 Session 6: Understanding the Harms of the Exposure Phase Part 1
- 6:00 Dinner
- 7:00-9:00 Session 7: Understanding the Harms of the Exposure Phase Part 2
Monday June 10
- 8:30 Breakfast
- 9:30-12:00 Session 8: Understanding the Harms of the Exposure Phase Part 3
- 12:00-2:00 lunch on your own.*
- 2:00-5:00 Session 9: Understanding the Harms of the Symptom Progression Phase Part 1
- 6:00 Dinner
- 7:00-9:00 Session 10: Immanuel Prayer Structure (See description of this session on our Immanuel Prayer Structure Intensive page.)
Tuesday
- 8:30 Breakfast
- 9:30-12:00 Session 11: Understanding the Harms of the Symptom Progression Phase Part 2
- 12:00-2:00 lunch on your own.*
- 2:00-5:00 Session 12: Understanding the Harms of the Symptom Progression Phase Part 3
- 6:00 Dinner
- 7:00-9:00 Session 13: Treasure Hunting
Wednesday
- Cabins are rented through Thursday morning. We highly recommend taking a day to soak it all in, enjoy a hike, go fishing, explore the mining history of Creede or just sleep in and let your body and mind recover from the hard work you will have done.
- Must be completely out of your cabin by 9AM Thursday the 17th
Meals
- New Hope will bring the supplies for breakfasts and dinners on Saturday through Tuesday.
- Lunches: Each day we will have an extended break so you will have time to drive to Freemons (One of Darrell’s favorite dives, awesome burgers, fries, etc. about 15 minutes away) or into Creede or Lake City which are both about 30 minutes away. You are also welcome to bring your own food and starting on Sunday, scrounge through the previous day’s leftovers.
What to bring
- Warm sleeping bag. Cabins have beds (2 full size beds per cabin) but only come with a mattress cover. Mornings could be in the low 30’s and while the cabins have wood stoves, unless you are up multiple times in the night restocking it, your cabin will be cold by morning.
- Casual “mountain clothes.” Some of our work will be done outside and July daytime temps can range from the 40’s to the upper 70’s. Bring clothes that allow you to dress in layers.
- Journal or notebook.
- Drinking water. There is untested well water for showers, cleaning up, etc. In the past many guests have drank the water without any known issues. However, it has not been tested in several years so they are not calling it drinkable. Bring more water than you think you will need. I recommend a gallon per person per day.
- Drinks, snacks, lunch food. As stated above, New Hope will provide some but not all your meals. It will not provide drinks and snacks so hit Walmart in Alamosa on your way in. We will have cooler space available.
Thanks! This event and the ministry of New Hope is available to everyone because of the generous donations of many individuals and families. We are constantly blown away by God’s provision for New Hope through the generosity of many. Therefore, please do not let the “suggested donation” amount prevent you from registering if you feel called to attend. We do ask everyone to at least cover their “Food and Lodging Expense” of $475.