What role does a man’s early attachment experiences and models play in his sexual compulsions? What roles do they play in his struggles to connect with his wife even when sober? What role does a wife’s early attachment experiences and models play in the trauma she experiences in betrayal? What role does it play in her recovery process?
Why do some men in active sexual addiction avoid connection and even sex with their wives while others overwhelm them with constant demands? Why do some men in recovery turn their focus onto their wife, while others seem to shut down all sexual desire?
Why do some wives, in the midst of their betrayal trauma, respond by wanting, even needing sexual connection from their betraying partner while others shut down their sexual desire?
What harms are done to a betrayed wife when she experiences her husband seeking sex as the confirmation that “we are OK?” What harms are done to a betrayed wife when she experiences her husband avoiding physical and emotional connection even after he establishes sexual sobriety and the wife is open and interested in sexual reconnection?
Darrell Brazell presented this impactful seminar at New Hope Fellowship in Lawrence Kansas in March of 2025 and explored these and other questions while taking a deep dive into the three most universally accepted models of insecure attachment to gain better understanding and to learn new skills for developing secure attachment with God and others.
We have chosen to make the seminar available for a suggested donation of $25. The donation is completely in your court. If you are not able to donate at this time, please feel free to watch and learn regardless.
Please also note that this content can be emotionally triggering so please care for your heart as well as your spouse’s heart as you work through this material. Take breaks. Breath deeply and let Jesus meet you in these deep places.
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Session 1: Introduction To Attachment
Session 2: Attachment Pain
Session 3: Healing Insecure Attachments
Session 4: Secure Attachment Skills
Session 5: Dismissive/Avoidant Attachment
Session 6: Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment